► This, in turn, will help you raise your conscience to know when you’re going to make bad decisions. ► If you have a low conscience, you want to be able to use your observing ego to see when you hurt people or make bad decisions. ► The sophistication of your conscience is going to help the maturity of your boundary. If you hurt people and they give you feedback, you would put that in your conscience to inform you of bad decisions. ► Ethics: an internal sense of destructiveness vs. More than likely it will not last long as the boundary will not have enough support and resource. ► But if someone has an idea or value that is way out of the boundary and somehow they manage to drag some people to the new boundary, it becomes a cult. ► An innovator is someone in the company that has a lot of intellectual resources and comes up with original ideas and values that are not too far out from the boundary which helps expand the company boundary. You could end up as the dumping ground for others anger and anxiety if the people have poor boundaries around you. ► Assess if you can tolerate other holes and walls, the environment. Hopefully, the leader doesn’t have holes or walls but has doors. Some will have very rigid walls and be more stoic. ► Some individual will have holes in their boundaries and exhibit weaker character like gossiping. Ask yourself if you share the same beliefs and vision. You can call them beliefs or values or a mission statement of a company.
The commonalities are a set of ideas that they share. The same would work for the family group. ► So if you’re thinking of joining the company you would look at what the commonalities are to establish the boundary. ► You have other employees who relate to each other and the leader. ► The company with have a leader with the biggest boundary and usually the most resources too. The boundary will already be strong and mature otherwise the company would not last long. your career strategy would not be the same as your love life strategy. This means your strategies would differ from e.g. ► The doors to your boundaries could be for your partner, colleagues, family and community. A healthy choice would be win/win opportunities instead of win/lose. That is the energy you decide to use when you open doors to various opportunities. ► Now imagine you have a certain level of power/charisma inside that boundary. ► Your decision making is a resource that operates those doors. Efficient boundaries help your self-esteem.
Some with lots of open doors some with strong boundaries not allowing anyone to cross. – Deep Inner Game featuring Richard aka Billy. – Self-parenting and finding the right balance between well-being and courage. One of the few videos I’ve still kept for personal development. Paul Dobransky taught me so much in their video that I kept it for ages and still get more out of it.